How to get what you want out of life is a bold title to give to a post.


I genuinely believe that the principles contain herein are going to help you as much as they have helped me, my team and others that I work with on a frequent basis.

As I mentioned in a previous post about achieving your dreams, achieving success is directly proportional in your confidence in your ability to take the relevant actions necessary to achieve your desired result.

The success statistics in the western-world that I referred to in that post are shocking and I commend you for running , or thinking about, running a small home business to really help you to achieve your financial goals.

Making the decision to run a business is an exciting journey and once you make the decision to take steps in the direction that will ultimately lead to your goal achievement you will never be the same person again.

It’s impossible.

So rather than me waffle on with philosophical positive thinking ideas about success, let me start by giving you some practical steps that you can follow.

This post is all about the practical steps that you can take to really achieve more.

DISCLAIMERI do not for one second guarantee that your reality will be changed over night after reading this post.

I know the steps that I’m about to give you work.

These steps have worked for me and they will probably work for you as well.

That being said, I’m well aware that we live in a microwave-like  society.

Everyone wants results immediately and few people are prepared to put in the effort necessary to realise their financial goals.

Always remember that your subconscious mind is going to constantly fight against the change that you are going to need to experience to get the result that you want.

It’s only trying to protect you.


If you’re like me when I first started adopting these principles, you will probably feel yourself getting really excited about the possibilities.


You will start taking daily actions towards hitting your goals.


Life will get in the way and you will find yourself skipping a couple of days and taking the actions on a weekly basis.

And guess what..

A month will go by because life ‘got in the way‘ and you will reread this posit and get fired up again.

Don’t fall in to this trap!

If you remember by previous post about success, I mentioned that your success as a home business owner is going to revolve around the following :

  • Self belief
  • Belief that you have the right knowledge to do what’s necessary
  • Knowing EXACTLY what you want
  • Getting what you want


Let’s delver into the steps on at a time.


As I mentioned in the achievement post, we can often create artificial ceilings that can really prevent us from achieving our goals.

We place so many limitations on ourselves that have nothing to do with our physical or mental limitations that are really just figments of our imagination.

I used to keep a low achievement ceiling over my head when it came to learning a new language.

There was a time when I worked at a cinema when I used to tell myself that I wasn’t capable at achieving more because I didn’t leave school with straight As.

This is one of the biggest misconceptions when it comes to earning ability.

If someone believes that they are worth, or have an earning ceiling of $50k year , they will never be able to exceed this level of income until the reprogram their subconscious mind.

I really want you to get what I am about to say next…

You need to make a decision what your annual income goal is and what this breaks down to on a daily , weekly and monthly basis.

So, let’s do an exercise right now.

Grab a pen and paper and write this income figure down it.

Once again…

Don’t worry about what you are going to have to do to earn this money , just make the decision to commit to a figure that will make you feel happier.

You see…

The mistake that I often used to make is that I was looking at what my peers were earning , who had the same educational background that I did and I was justifying the mediocrity that I found myself living in.


Whenever I talk to people about starting a part time business around the 9-5 job that they hate, they often tell use expressions like….

You know, opportunities like:

  • Network Marketing,
  • Affiliate Marketing,
  • Dropshipping
  • Stuffing envelopes

don’t work.


Those opportunities sound like scams.

Here’s the truth…

Whenever someone talks about something that they don’t full understand as a scam, it’s just …

Another excuse!

It’s easier for them to identify everything as a scam because it justifies their laziness and takes the pressure of them to take action to change their current circumstances.

It’s interesting, I was talking to someone about the Herbalife opportunity and they refereed to it as a scam.

I thought this was fascinating so I asked them why they felt that this was a scam.

I was aware about the FTC cases and the dubious practices that have been adopted by many distributors, but I asked them to expound on the nature of the scam.

All they could tell me was that…

Its a pyramid scheme where most people who sign up dont make any money.

I couldn’t agree with him more.

Yes, most people who start a network marketing business don’t make any money but here’s the question…

Does that make it a scam?

His response..

Yeah of course.


I then went on to explain that the fundamentals of network marketing to him which are as follows:

A distributors buys a product from the company at a discount – lets say 50%.

This is known as the wholesale price.

The distributor then sells the product and a retail price  – lets say 50% profit and then pockets the profit of $50.

He understood.

Now, I went on to tell him that…

If Distributor A  finds a way to build a customer base of product users and teaches others in her organisation to do the same, she earns a royalty bonus based on the volume of products that moves through her team.

I asked him if this was a scammy practice.

His response…

NO – as long as the distributor is finding new retail customers and not just other distributors who consume the product.

We were in agreement.

Fred understood the logic so far.

I went on to explain that the problem with most MLM companies is that they are not finding and keeping new customers base don direct response marketing.

What they are doing is using outdated techniques THAT DO NOT WORk ANYMORE, some of which include:

  • Chasing family and friends to buy products and join when their team when they havent worked out how to build a customer base
  • Spamming social media with pictures of Ferraris and boats and begging people to join their team
  • Handing out flyers in shopping centres and putting leaflets through doors
  • …and the list goes on.

Fred said that he has come across people who use these techniques and that’s why this business model would never interest him.

Can’t blame him.

I then went on to explain that if these distributors ran their home business like and actual business and used proven direct response marketing principles like identifying the correct target market, finding the most appropriate prospects, creating an irresistible offer to sell their products and used customer retention techniques like like community management principles, they would be running a successful home business.

Fred agreed.

So after a 10 minute conversation Fred went from his default position of saying that network marketing is a scam, to giving reasons why it didn’t appeal to him, to understanding that proper marketing applied to any form of home business would bring about long-term success.

The point I am trying to make here is that it takes effort to think and apply logical reasoning to an opportunity whereas it takes no effort to dismiss everything a scam.

Make sense?

So, what can we all do to raise our limitation ceiling/roof and break the habit of looking for excuses at any given opportunity.


The first thing that we all need to do is to …

Pay Attention To our Language.

Never say openly that you ‘can’t earn $x because..’

If you get into the habit of speaking openly about what you want to earn, you will train your subconscious to believe that you are worth this amount of money.

You need to get into the habit of being aware when you are short-selling your own abilities and putting yourself down.

You know, when you say things like..

I would love to earn $200k a year BUT…


I wouldn’t be any good at that because….

A tip to overcome this that works well is to catch yourself making a negative statement mid-sentence and flip it on its head.

Here’s that I mean

An example being…

I can’t do x, because I was hopeless at this at school BUT, the more it think about there are people worse than me who are making a success of this , so yeah, I’ll give it a go and try my best.

You see what happens there?

You’re catching yourself speaking negative words about your ability to do X and then turning it around in away that reinforces the positive belief that your subconscious needs to believe it as truth.


Try your best NOT to get into the habit of saying:

  • I don’t think I can…
  • I’m no good at…
  • If only I had…

OK on to the next step of this plan.

Step 2: Take Responsibility

What this refers to is…

Never blame anything or anyone for your position in life!

Blaming external circumstances is an excuse.

Saying that you are unlucky is an excuse.

Never blame, anyone or anything for your current circumstances.

More importantly…

Never blame yourself!

Just realise where you are, where you want to be and simply…

Get on with it!

3. Embrace NEW Opportunities

This is where the ‘ it must be a scam’ brigade always lose out.

The cold hard truth…

Your success is going to be directly proportional to your willingness to try new things that are completely alien to anything you’ve tried before.

Let’s be real here for a second, if you are currently working in a job that doesn’t pay you enough money and you see an advert about an opportunity that you could tap into to realise your goals…

Investigate this opportunity thoroughly!


Because, it is commonly understood by many successful entrepreneurs that most people come across an opportunity on a monthly basis that could complete change their lives around for the better.

The reason why only 5% of people reach the age of 65 with ‘real wealth’ is because most people can’t be bothered to take the action and seixze the opportunities that they come across.

What a waste of a life.


By making the decision to get out of your comfort zone and investigate new opportunities you will find yourself growing more as an entrepreneur and getting a better understanding of the opportunity landscape surrounding you.

You will to speak to people with different experiences and perspectives, and you will start to fine-tune your skills of investigation and negotiation.

It’s always much easier to say NO and to AVOID taking the action necessary to make things happen in your life.

4. Define Your Goals

First thing that most gurus tell you about goals is to write down your goals as though you have already achieved them.

An example could be…

When I pick up my mobile phone, and hit my banking app, I can see that I have achieved my income goals because there is another $500 in my account today. I look forward to going to my favoirite restaurant where I will order a lovely Biryani carry packed full of flavour and I am truly grateful to be living my ideal life.


Here’s the problem…

When you do this, your subconscious has a habit of saying to you….

Hahaha. You are hilarious. You haven’t had $500 in your bank account since I can remember and you know you’re broke. Who are you trying to kid?

A goal setting example that I prefer is more straightforward.

Something like….

By January 31st, I will l own a new carbon fibre grey BMW M series car with black leather seats, that feel so comfortable.

I could, and will shortly, write a post dedicated to goal setting and I’m not saying that all of these Guru’s are wrong but based on my experience, I have achieved goals much easier when I’ve adopted the second goal letting example instead of the first.


When it comes to goals you can write as many as you want but to make sure that you don’t overwhelm your subconscious. I would recommend sticking to 5 goals initially.

Start with some goals that are very simple and basic in nature.

Let’s say that you have been meaning to call a friend that you haven’t spoken to in ages.

You could write down the following goal….

By next Saturday I will have called Mary to catch up and check that she is OK.


On the 15th September I will speak to my boss and ask him to discuss promotional opportunities within the company.

See what I mean by simple?

Here’s they key…

You must….

Write These Goals Down!

A technique that helps to program your subconscious mind is to write down your goals on a piece of card that you can easily fit into your pocket and…

Read your goal list throughout the day!


Writing goals is as important but WHERE you write them and READ them is also critically important.

Follow me for a second…

People who incorporate a sense of intense focus in their lives, normally have a ‘special place’ where they like to meditate.

I know Christians, Muslims and other religious people who have a room or a closet area where they go to still their mind and focus on internalizing their thoughts.


If you can apply the same principle to your business, this could help you to realise your goals quicker.

You need to find a place where you can comfortably, say things out loud on a daily basis.

A place where you will feel relaxed and at peace and you will not be disturbed.

If you can do this in a bedroom, this would be ideal.

Here’s what I want you do to once you have identified this special place.

Pick 2 time-slots in your day when you are going to meditate on your goals.

Preferably once n the morning and once in the evening.

As you are reading these words that form your individual goals , feel excited that this place (room, closet etc) where you are about to start reading out your goals is a place that energises the manifestation of your goals.

I know this sounds a bit Woo Woo and I first felt the same way when I tried this after learning this technique from the marketing genius Stuart Goldsmith but you know what….

This stuff actually works.


That’s it for now. I hope I’ve give you something interesting to think about as you decided to start, or grow your business.

Speak soon.